Patrick And Jillian Dempsey: A Marriage Built To Last

Dr. Asa Beatty V 14 May 2025

It’s been 24 years since Patrick Dempsey and Jillian Dempsey said “I do,” and the couple is still going strong. In late July, the pair celebrated a milestone that not many couples achieve — nearly a quarter-century together. Both 57, Patrick, the beloved actor from "Grey’s Anatomy," and Jillian, the celebrated makeup artist, took a moment to reflect on their incredible journey. Patrick shared a heartfelt post on Instagram, saying, “What an amazing path we’ve been on. I love you!!” It’s clear that this couple cherishes every moment they’ve shared.

A Journey Worth Fighting For

While their relationship has been nothing short of inspiring, it hasn’t always been smooth sailing. Back in 2015, the couple faced a significant challenge when they decided to separate. This separation, though difficult, became a turning point for Patrick and Jillian. At the time, they were raising their three children: Talula, now 21, and twins Darby and Sullivan, who are 16. Determined to work through their issues, they committed to couples therapy, a decision that would ultimately strengthen their bond.

During this period, Patrick was juggling a demanding career as a car-racing enthusiast and the grueling schedule of filming "Grey’s Anatomy." The stress of balancing his passions with family life took its toll. As a source exclusively revealed to Closer, “The split forced him to take a step back and reassess his priorities. Patrick was a bit of a free spirit, and his need for speed worried Jillian deeply.”

Finding Balance and Renewal

In response to the challenges they faced, Patrick made some important life changes. He decided to leave "Grey’s Anatomy," a show that had defined much of his career, and he also scaled back on his racing pursuits. “I [learned] to prioritize,” Patrick openly admitted. He realized that his marriage was something he wasn’t willing to let go of. Both Patrick and Jillian were committed to fighting for their relationship, and their dedication paid off.

Patrick and Jillian Dempsey's Marriage Secrets: 'Fight for It' — Photo by Sebastien Nogier/EPA-EFE/Shutterstock

Through their challenges, Patrick has gained valuable insights into what makes a lasting relationship. He explained, “You’ve got to keep at it. You’ve got to communicate and stay open and not get lazy. And not give up. And lots of sex!” The couple’s willingness to work through tough times has only deepened their connection. It’s clear that they’ve learned that a successful marriage takes effort, patience, and love.

A Love Story That’s Still Unfolding

The source adds that Patrick and Jillian, who met in 1994 when Jillian was working as a hairstylist and Patrick was one of her clients, are more committed than ever to maintaining their relationship. They’ve both acknowledged that they don’t want to let their bond weaken again. “They’re in a good place and they’re happy,” the source reveals. For Patrick and Jillian, their journey isn’t just about surviving — it’s about thriving together, through every twist and turn life throws their way.